conformity's really just a big ball of wibbly wobbly timey wimey... stuff.

I was reading through my previous posts on blogger :D





And it hit me that no matter how we keep saying it's society's fault, it's not only society's fault that we discriminate against our own bodies. We've been the ones to broadcast to the entire world- "we have to learn to love our own bodies because we're all unique!"- but we're also the ones to secretly look at our own thighs, our arms and wish that they were thinner, fairer. It's contradicting. It's helpless. It's a downward spiral of hypocrisy. We're telling everyone to feel confident about their own bodies because they're all unique. At the same time, we're also telling people to go with their own styles and not care about society's conformity as long as they are alright and comfortable with it.

The thing is, given a picture of a girl dressing up the way she likes- perhaps with tees and jeans. It's what she likes and we encourage her to do so because it's her feeling comfortable in those outfits and she's not being conformed to what 'society' stereotypes her to wear (perhaps a dress, or skirt- etc).

Next, given a picture of a girl [also] dressing up the way she likes (now remember that she is comfortable with it and likes it- no one forced her, she just likes it that way) in a miniskirt with a rather low-cut blouse. Just to make it more dramatic, she's been given bangs that hang over one of her eyes and over-done makeup. What do people think? We'll start with the most general impressions- perhaps some people might think that she's been forced to dress up like that. [Insert hypocritical sigh about how society is screwed up and how people have been pressurized to dress up like that]. Of course, going further, people will or may come to a state of name-calling and eventually degrade her as a wanton woman.

Look at this. Those two [non-existent, hypothetical] ladies face very different reactions to their styles of dressing. Yet both of them were only dressing according to their own styles and they were perfectly comfortable with it, felt confident with their own dressings, had no one to force or use stereotype to pressure them into wearing those clothes. 

It's how we've been measuring people against a metal ruler of stereotypes. Society isn't the one who's conforming us. We've been blaming an invisible, possibly non-existent word for all our worries. We, are the ones who have been condemning ourselves. In turn, we're passing our judgments to those around us. This is how it's been spreading. We talk of 'fashion' and yet also how 'indecently-dressed' women are all wanton women. We think it's wrong for women to be caked in makeup and have fake tans- simply because those just show how that they're not comfortable with their own looks and how they're not following their own styles. (Doesn't it sound hypocritical?)

Another point: what is society (this cursed word that imprisons so many of us) made up of? Humans. Who are we? Humans.

We may look at model magazines and think about how ugly we are, or even go about saying that society's the one who is always judging us for not being pretty enough. What, even some of us- people who think that we should cherish our own bodies- think it that way and go on to try and 'salvage' their ugliness.

Why do we always measure ourselves to those ladies on magazines? Why do we always think that those ladies on magazines are pretty simply because they are on magazines? If 'ugly' ladies were on magazines, well, perhaps- 'ugly would be the new pretty'?

I also care about my looks, I admit. This blog post doesn't really... Make sense, does it. Oh well. Seeing as I'm another of those low-esteemed hypocrites, I can't really do anything about it, can I? (Actually, I can. I just want to sleep now, though.)

Sincerely,
it doesn't really make sense because we're humans who dislike change, as long as it's unnecessary.

P.S. I'm also posting this on my tumblr.